Five years ago, I met with a matchmaker. I went in scornful. Like many of my progressive South Asian peers, I denounced arranged marriage as offensive and regressive. But when the matchmaker recited her lengthy questionnaire, I grasped, if just for a beat, why people did things this way. Do you believe in a higher power? No idea. Should your partner share your creative interests?
Culture to culture, physical features are emphasized and cared for in different ways , and people particularly women experience different pressures to appease standards—and often different restrictions on self-representation—depending on where in the world they find themselves. Beauty standards that have persisted are largely rooted in its colonial past, where feminine beauty was defined as having fair skin, almond eyes, long hair, and a petite figure. Standards in Pakistan and America definitely vary; America has a diverse population which means the concept of beauty is more heterogeneous.
Arnaz and Lucille Ball co-founded and ran the television production company called Desilu Productions , originally to market I Love Lucy to television networks. He was also renowned for leading his Latin music band, the Desi Arnaz Orchestra. His father was Santiago's youngest mayor and also served in the Cuban House of Representatives. Arnaz describes the opulent family life of his early youth in his autobiography, A Book —the family owned three ranches, a palatial home, and a vacation mansion on a private island in Santiago Bay, Cuba. Following the Cuban Revolution of , led by Fulgencio Batista , which overthrew President Gerardo Machado , Alberto Arnaz was jailed and all of his property was confiscated.
It might seem strange to invoke an Alice Walker essay in connection with the new Netflix reality series, Indian Matchmaking , but, here we go. The essay is revolutionary for that coinage. Walker explicitly draws a connection between skin color and marriage. Walker tells us two smaller, adjoining stories, about herself and a friend in their single days. In the Netflix series Indian Matchmaking , the importance of skin color arrives quickly in talk of matrimony, as do other facets of packaged appearance, the sorts that indicate a notion of a stratified universe: This level of education matches with this one, this shade of skin with this, this height with this, these family values with these, this caste with this, this region with this, and so on. In the series, she takes on clients in India and America, young desi men and women who seem, for all their desire to get properly paired off, equally conflicted about the whole endeavor. The women work and travel; they like their lives and have friends who offer the sort of support a spouse might. All seem to want, at some level, simple, non-transactional, unconditional affection. At the same time, they talk in transactional terms. The series leaves us with a somewhat haunting vision, an echo of a refrain repeated throughout the show, but one that lands louder with our final subject.